break ups are the pits.

Saying break ups are hard would be an extreme understatement. Saying they are the end of the world would be an extreme exaggeration. But guess what? They happen. There are a select few people in this world who will never experience the sting of a broken heart and the odds are..you aren't one of those people. Now put on your big kid pants and deal with that fact. Let it sink in that someone you love will completely destroy you. If you let them that is.

The stereotypical girl in emotional agony can be seen in front of a television watching Love Actually and stuffing her pie hole with Ben and Jerry's. That's fine, we've all been there. A freshly ended relationship can completely devastate your will to leave the house, or even change out of pajamas for that matter. Believe me, I get it. The stereotypical guy is out at the bars slobbering all over floosies with daddy issues, perhaps drinking until they "can't feel feelings." Sometimes these roles are reversed, it depends I suppose. I understand lying across your bed listening to that Dashboard Confessional and Secondhand Serenade type of music we all know so well until you can't cry any longer may seem like the right thing to do but guess what sweetheart? That only makes matters worse. I'm not downplaying the pain of love ending, and i'm also not describing the kind of break up that is temporary. I use the term for the kind of end that you know to be permanent.

I'm not sure the point of this post other than to release some thoughts I have swirling around. I want to say that I know the feeling of pure and utter devastation, when even hearing someone's name can reduce you to tears, thinking of how things were fills your body up to your ears with a boiling feeling. I know. But I also know that life goes on; trust me. Every day you think of that person less and less and eventually the hurting stops. But you're the only one that can make that happen. Listening to depressing music, sitting home alone, eating until you can't any more doesn't do anything productive. On the other hand, going out every night and getting so drunk you can't remember your name and going home with strangers doesn't help either. Because you know what? You're going to sober up in the morning. Your life will be the exact same as it was before. You just have to live. Live your life for yourself, because if you can't do that then you will never find the one person who will never give you that horrible boiling feeling.

Basically, pull up your boot straps and get back on the horse. You will still think of him/her every day. A certain song will come on that makes you skip a breath. You will still hate seeing them move on. Regardless of these things, which are completely normal, you will get over it. You will think of this person and there will be no change in your emotion, they will just become..another person. But until that happens, don't make the situation worse. Dramatics are more interesting, sure, but making a mountain out of a molehill is nothing but detrimental to your health. Everything happens for a reason, and looking back you will realize this to be true.

Be thankful for the times you had with that person.

Take the positives and learn from them.

Forget the negatives, there is no point in dwelling.

When you least expect it, you will wake up..and be okay.

I promise.