hemingway?

Okay, now don't quote me on this but I want to say it was Hemingway that is known to have said "Write drunk, edit sober." Well folks, that is what I am doing this evening. Sometimes you just have to let your inhibitions down and say what you feel. Although I think it is a well-known fact that I do this even whilst sober. Oh well. It may turn out that I just make even less sense than usual when my BAC is up. Le us see, shall we? Today I would like us to talk about exes.



My question is, what in the hell is the big deal? I am just sitting here unpacking my room, (I recently moved, come on over y'all!) and finding loads upon loads of old memories. Pictures, ticket stubs, letters, etc. If I found an old picture of Krissy and I, we would be laughing at it and sharing "remember whens." Why is it different when it is someone you have been with? Just because you have a conversation with someone does not mean you are automatically betrothed. I could see if you are one of the hot messes that texts things like "I LOUVE YOU PLEESE COME OVERRS" to your former lovers, but if it is far enough behind in a life stage who even cares? If I wanted you so badly I wouldn't have let you go in the first place. But I did, because sometimes people are meant to live a parallel life while others are meant to cross your path for a short while then carry on their merry way. I think as adults we accept this.

I love every single person I have dated. I wouldn't get back with a single one. Contradictory? Actually, no.
The one thing that really attracted me to the person in the first place never leaves. I will forever love our chemistry. The way you made me laugh. Your body, sorry but I had a shallow time in my life, sue me. Your musical tastes. Your sincerity. Our ability to flawlessly converse. Your drunken temper. Your inability to keep it in your pants. Your wishy washy decisions.Your disrespect. Your refusal to commit. While you, you're just plain dumb. Some things never change.

Why isn't it acceptable to continue to love these things, only in a different light? I can still appreciate someone's good qualities without wanting to jump their bones and breed their children. I think it is a childish notion to believe that two people are more apt to end up together simply because they have been in the past. Especially considering that the way young adults are these days, they will bump uglies without the knowledge of even a last name. With that being said, [perhaps you should be more leery of the strangers your significant other comes in contact with than the known former ball and chains.

Every one of my ex boyfriends could call me at four am needing anything in the world and I would be there. Because to me, when someone makes an impact on your life, no matter how small...it makes them matter. Why does being considerate have to have ulterior motives? Keep in mind that not everyone in the world fits the stereotype society puts them in. Your girlfriend's ex wasn't trying to bend her over when he brought her home from the bar. When your boyfriend's ex texts about a random thought/question, it doesn't mean she is trying to marry him. Appreciate your past; it will help you accept your future.